Inspire: Give me the instant relationship glue

This is the beginning of a new post.

And soon, it will have an end. And you can search for it, and read another one, but once this is over, it's over.

Resolution is something I constantly seek. Finish work so I go home. Finish paying off that debt. Finishing school so I can graduate. Finishing unpacking the boxes in the basement so it finally feels like home.

And I seek it in my relationships - finishing people. I'll start with someone who has a few of the right characteristics, and mold them into 100% reliable, 100% dependable, trustworthy, wise, and with a good sense of humor.

But people don't like being molded. And they're not finished. The only "finished" people I know exist on the other side of the sod. I need to be more willing to walk with incomplete people - because, just like them, that's where I am. I need to be more willing to forgive. I need to be more willing to teach and to learn.

Most of all, I need to remember that real life happens in that tension between what we were and what we are becoming. If there is no tension, it's because there is no growth. The state of being unresolved leads me to seek new ideas, new perspectives, new information. I need to make decisions slowly - leaving time for other perspectives to come in. I need to be willing to work in curing process.

Ah, enough of that - just give me the instant relationship glue... although it never seems to stick long enough for me to do anything useful.